At Couples Therapy Massachusetts, I have been thinking about how seasonal transitions are a great time to pause and take stock; what’s working in your life and relationship? What’s not? What do you want more of, and what might need to be dialed down or let go?

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Before summer fully takes on a life of its own (and maybe it already has!), consider setting aside some intentional time with your partner, or your whole family, to create a summer bucket list.

This is more than just a fun list-making activity. It’s a gentle way to check in, align your priorities, and connect about what you each need and want in the months ahead.

Why a Summer Bucket List?

Creating a bucket list together is a playful, low-pressure way to be intentional about how you spend your time. It helps you move from “we should do something” to “here’s how we want to feel this season.”

You can each make your own personal list and then come together to create a shared relationship bucket list for the summer. Think of it as a vision board in list form—a place to daydream, get creative, and talk openly about what matters.

It Doesn’t Have to Be Fancy

Let go of the idea that bucket lists need to be full of epic adventures or expensive plans. The best ones are rooted in the everyday moments that bring joy, comfort, and connection.

Maybe your list includes:

Taking more afternoon naps together
Reading side by side while sipping iced tea
Making fresh cocktails and enjoying your screened-in porch
Watching fireflies flicker in the evening sky

Simple, soulful moments like these can be just as memorable—and often more meaningful—than big vacations.

Let It Be a Conversation Starter

Bucket lists are really about brainstorming and sharing ideas. This isn’t about setting rigid goals or expectations. It’s about learning what lights your partner up, being open to their ideas, and noticing what matters most to them.

You don’t have to do everything on the list. And not every suggestion has to make the final cut. What’s most important is the spirit of curiosity, playfulness, and respect behind it.

A Few Ground Rules for Couples

Listen without judgment. Even if your partner’s idea isn’t your favorite, ask more questions before shutting it down.
Stay open. This list is about possibilities, not a checklist of tasks.
Make it meaningful. Include things that nurture your relationship—not just keep you busy.
Revisit it. Keep the list somewhere visible and come back to it when you need a reset.

Slow Down and Enjoy Each Other

Above all, approach this activity with the intention of slowing down, reconnecting, and being present. Let this be a gentle invitation to get to know each other in a slightly new way; to hear what’s on your partner’s heart, and to share what’s on yours.

Sometimes, love is built in the smallest of shared moments. This summer, may your bucket list be filled with the things that bring you closer together.

Ready to Feel More Connected This Summer?

If creating a bucket list sparked some ideas—or revealed some gaps—in your relationship, you're not alone. The good news? You don’t have to figure it all out by yourselves.

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At Couples Therapy Massachusetts, I help partners slow down, communicate more clearly, and reconnect with what really matters. Whether you're feeling stuck, drifting apart, or just want to be more intentional together, support is available.

Schedule your free 15-minute consultation today and let’s talk about how we can make this summer one of real connection for both of you.

Couples Therapy Massachusetts: Create a Summer Bucket List